Bear in mind the motivational posters that dotted the partitions of your highschool? Cats hanging with one paw from a department, elephants strolling a tightrope throughout a canyon. The message was kind of the identical: “Hold in there,” “You have obtained this,” “The toughest half is behind you.”
Ridiculous, actually. Most of us laughed at them behind closed doorways — turning them into memes earlier than memes had been even a factor.
In later years, I’ve come to see the worth in encouraging a constructive outlook. It is saved me in lots of educational conditions and numerous skilled ones. Slowly, nonetheless, this positivity has morphed into one thing synthetic. Poisonous, even.
I’ve seen once-were significant work celebrations flip into every day affairs — grand hurrahs for merely finishing duties. MVP awards handed to staff who, nicely, simply hold in there. Congratulations for proffering an authentic thought.
Award inflation shouldn’t be information — many have written concerning the rise of a culture centered on “trophies for everyone,” however there is a thick, darkish lining that hasn’t totally been explored.
Initially, award tradition relies upon closely on dopamine boosts. We get it a couple of times and we wish it increasingly more — the simpler it’s to get, the extra we go after it. No shock, then, that The Atlantic wrote about trophy tradition producing a era of workaholics. Work extra, get extra reward.
Even past award-giving, nonetheless, rampant positivity within the office messes with our sense of actuality. Days are full of ups and downs, failures and successes. This is applicable to work-a-day firm life as a lot because it does to life at house. And but, too many firms are cultivating a culture of “yay” at each flip, pressuring staff to cover their gripes, grievances, and grimaces underneath the rug.
The end result — and I’ve seen this firsthand — is a sea of staff who boil beneath the floor however grin in conferences, cheerily use exclamation marks in emails, and flood their Slack messages with emojis. Overcompensation.
The unlucky consequence is evident. No person can maintain a false persona for lengthy — the negatives will erupt both at work or at house. As I am certain you’ll be able to think about, neither one is nice. Relationships are broken, initiatives derailed, jobs misplaced.
We have to flip the script. Positivity is nice, however we have to make area for dangerous days and frustration. The important thing to worker happiness shouldn’t be pretending away negativity, however giving it its place: in one-on-one conferences with superiors, in confidential classes with human assets, or in off-the-clock gripe classes with staff.
Messaging is vital. As a pacesetter, try for positivity, mutual help, ahead motion, development. On the identical time, acknowledge that development is typically painful and tough, and provides your staff permission (and applicable area) to acknowledge that ache.
In any other case, you grow to be a laughing inventory. Worse but, staff will explode with aggression, compounded harm, and vocalized ache when the suppression of negativity turns into an excessive amount of to deal with. Most of the time, the implications are disastrous.